Fifty shades of random thoughts on Kingsman and reading and Benedict Cumberbatch

~ I don’t even know what to say about the fact that the movie-that-shall-not-be-named broke box office records this weekend. You may think that I object to that movie based on my religion and the sexual content (which does bother me a bit, to be honest), but the biggest reason I am appalled by it is because it portrays an abusive, controlling relationship as something sexy and romantic. Why are more women not taking a stand on this? Ugh.

~ All of the boys/men in my family were gone this weekend visiting Kevin’s mom in Portland, and so I had lots of me-time. On Friday night, Ben and Natalie let me be a third wheel, and we all went to see The Imitation Game, a movie I will proudly name and evangelize for. People, Cumberbatch is brilliant, and that movie is beyond good. Best I’ve seen in years. Go see it, if you haven’t already.

~ On Valentine’s Day night, since Kevin was gone and we already had our romantic weekend away, I went to the movies. By myself. I tried to use self-control and not shed disapproving glances left and right at all the people lined up for that other movie, and paid for a ticket to see Kingsman: The Secret Service, which was all kinds of entertaining. Over-the-top, violent, not politically correct at all – but all in good fun. And, come on, you know you want to see Colin Firth in a ballet-esque scene of violence in which he takes out an entire church of racist homophobes. I know you do.

~ Reading on a whim – that is my motto for 2015. I am simply relishing the freedom! I no longer have a to-be-reviewed shelf! I think to myself, “The Still Alice movie looks so good, but I still haven’t read the book. Hmmmm….” I click over to the library web site, put it on hold, and start reading it the day it arrives. Gasp! I could get used to this.

Hope you all had a great Valentine’s Day weekend.

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16 Responses to Fifty shades of random thoughts on Kingsman and reading and Benedict Cumberbatch

  1. ibeeeg says:

    Thank you, thank you Carrie for this –>> “the biggest reason I am appalled by it is because it portrays an abusive, controlling relationship as something sexy and romantic. Why are more women not taking a stand on this? Ugh.” THAT is MY biggest issue with the books too. I am incredibly baffled why women are ok with this but then are not ok with being called “bossy” or “like a girl” or also wanting equal rights (whatever that truly is) or want to be respected. Blah.
    -Deanna-

    • CarrieK
      Twitter: booksandmovies
      says:

      Deanna – I agree! The contrast between the huge popularity oft this book/film vs. the increased number of women and men asserting that they are feminists is something I will never understand.

  2. BermudaOnion(Kathy)
    Twitter: bermudaonion
    says:

    I thought The Imitation Game was really good too. I haven’t read the book or seen THAT movie so I can’t comment on it one way or another.

    • CarrieK
      Twitter: booksandmovies
      says:

      Kathy – I am curious to see if The Imitation Game wins any Oscars on Sunday!

  3. Michelle says:

    Oh, I am so firmly against THAT movie and that story. Yes, we absolutely need to be protesting it. I am so proud when I talk to young friends and my nieces when they complain about it and mention unromantic it is. It makes me proud that the girls in the family understand the seriousness of the situation.

    The Imitation Game is the last movie I saw in a movie theater. I am SO happy that I did. It was amazing.

    Have a great week, my dear!

    • CarrieK
      Twitter: booksandmovies
      says:

      Michelle – My daughter and I have had some good conversations about Fifty Shades – similar to the ones we had when we both read Twilight years ago! I’m glad she is smart enough to see through the hype.

  4. Trisha says:

    Cumberbatch. I may actually love him. I’m jealous of your movie awesomeness. I really need to get to the theatre soon (and not for the movie that shall not be named).

    • CarrieK
      Twitter: booksandmovies
      says:

      Trisha – Cumberbatch is an interesting fellow. When I first started watching him in Sherlock, I didn’t find him attractive at all. But now, having seen him in several things, as well as watched interviews and seen how personable he is, well, he grows on one, doesn’t he? 😉

  5. Susan says:

    Yes Imitation Game is a terrific story. I also liked the Still Alice book; haven’t seen the movie yet. Theory of Everything is pretty good too.

  6. Anna Shuk says:

    I’m beyond agree with you on unnamed movie.. I’m so disappointed that people want to watch it so badly, buy tickets and say all over again that “oooooh it’s so romantic”, “oooh, he’s so hot”, “oooh,ooooh”. It makes me sad.
    After my friend went and saw Kingsman and told me about couple of scenes (with some kind of princess, or someone), I know that I don’t want to watch that movie either. Even for Colin. Just no, not for me.
    And The Imitation Game – gotta watch it soon. As for Still Alice, I’m going to try to read the book first and then see the movie. But oh my I’m intrigued after that trailer!!! I should’ve read the book a looong time ago (bought it 1 or 2 years ago, I guess..), but I didn’t – which is a shame. Trailer reminded me of book, though. Will read it soon.

    • CarrieK
      Twitter: booksandmovies
      says:

      Anna – Still Alice is a difficult read because of the subject matter, but is simply excellent.

  7. Heather
    Twitter: BookAddictHeath
    says:

    I couldn’t agree with you more about Fifty Shades. I don’t care one bit about what consenting adults choose to do in the bedroom and you will find zero judgment from me about the sexual content of the books/movie. But what I can’t stand is the fact that an abusive, controlling, stalking relationship is treated as sexy. It makes me sad that I have nieces growing up in a world in which many, many women see this as the ideal relationship. It breaks my heart, honestly, and as they grow up I plan to have many conversations with them about this (they are currently 7 and 3). Bravo to you for having open an honest conversations with your daughter (and hopefully your sons!) about how awful and damaging these kinds of relationships truly are.

    • CarrieK
      Twitter: booksandmovies
      says:

      Heather – Yes – my sons and I talk about pretty much everything that I talk about with my daughter. They are quick to recognize unhealthy relationships when they encounter them in pop culture – thank goodness!

  8. Sheila (Book Journey)
    Twitter: bookjourney
    says:

    That’s funny I wrote earlier this week about the 50 shades of “hmmm.. I didn’t see that coming” as well. I am of the same opinion as you on that one.

    Now I have to go see The initiation Game.